"A promise is only as good as the person who gives it." - Ryan Avery, "Trust is a Must"
Post written by Cass Chan
1. How do you come up with topics to speak about?
1. Who am I? (e.g. brother, husband, son, nerd, young, male)
2. What am I about? (e.g. trust, friendship, love, passion, adventure)
3. Where did I learn it? (e.g. mother, wife, father, grandmother, stranger on the bus, friend, teacher)
The reason you write it down is because you can't always see the connections in your head, but in front of your eyes you can begin to see the shape of the stories you want to share and the speech you want to give.
2. How do you deal with nerves before and during a speech or presentation?
As a fan of Lady Gaga, Ryan's go-to confidence booster is the line, "Marry the night!" from the song with the same name. He was inspired by the song because, as Lady Gaga associated it with marrying herself to music, Ryan associated with marrying himself to his passion for public speaking and helping others. He recommends using a song lyric that pumps you up, or thinking back to a moment when you felt very confident (e.g. when you got the highest score on an exam, when you asked the person you liked out and he/she said yes). Using a confidence booster can mean all the difference between breaking down or moving forward and finishing your speech or presentation.
3. What does your preparation routine for doing a speech consist of?
For speeches or presentations longer than 15 minutes, always have an outline with an introduction, 3 stories or main points, and a conclusion. If you get lost in one point, always know what your next point is and move onto next point or story in your speech or presentation.
Also, try recording yourself on camera and with a voice recorder to check your body language and vocals. It's impossible to catch every little thing you do when practising in front of a mirror or even in front of a friend. Use these tools to keep track of how you're progressing and to pick up any habits you or others might not have noticed before.
4. Are there any effective techniques to eliminate filler words such as "like" or "uh" from our speech?
5. How do you decide what jokes to include in your speech?
1. Can I say it in front of my grandmother?
2. Can I say it in front of 2 generations and have both understand?
3. Can I say it in front of 2 cultures and have both understand?
6. How has Toastmasters helped you succeed in other areas of your life?
Ryan: "I'm a strong believer that communication is correlated with lifestyle. Bad communication, bad lifestyle. Good communication, good lifestyle. Exceptional communication, exceptional lifestyle. I want to help people get up here, to having exceptional communication skills."